One of the biggest problems we face today is being afraid of one tiny little word. This one little word has the power to open up our schedules and our hearts for the things that matter most. What is this powerful little word, wanting to bring us freedom and happiness. It’s the word NO! The one that we, as “people pleasers” , are scared to even acknowledge exists. We don’t say it enough, scared to disappoint, anger or frustrate those we work with, live with and do life with, while we are sacrificing our peace and happiness, when it’s all just one little word away. No is a negative word and I’m not by any means encouraging pushing away our responsibilities or commitment to our jobs or families. It’s those other things that creep up, the ones that really do us in, that take us AWAY from our families and careers, we are looking at today. So, when is it really ok to say no?
When asked a specific question there are always two answers: yes or no. Saying yes to many things is going to complicate your life. Some things you need to say yes to, some things you don’t. So how do you define what should be your yes and no answers? Come up with a personal checklist that you can filter these questions through. This will help you navigate where your time is best spent.
You’ve got a good checklist to filter your decisions through and you realize that you need to start saying “no.” It’s not easy the first couple of times you have to turn people down, but there are positive, gentle ways to say no and they can come with a great sigh of relief to you!
As you learn to say yes to the important things and no to the less important, you will find yourself in the middle of the things and the people you love the most. Remember there are always seasons in life. Like the four distinct seasons of the year, there are seasons in life where there will be more no’s and seasons where there will be more yes answers.Sometimes we are in a place where we are helping someone we love to carry a heavy yes season, making our no’s become greater. There is beauty to find in your “no” responses. As I write this we are still in the middle of 2020 and there have been way more “no’s” to face than I was prepared for. But these no answers that have been out of my control have opened up some beautiful “yes” times with my loved ones that I didn’t even realize I needed. Don’t jump to the conclusion that every no is a negative. Sometimes no leads us right to the yes we didn’t even know was waiting, just around the corner.
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